RELIGION and SPIRITUALITY

We’re attending a memorial service today for my mother-in-law’s best friend’s husband. Makes one take stock, especially as we get older, or move into the more reflective than active part of our lives.

Gladys is one of my absolute favorite people ever. She’s also a devout Catholic. She’s outlived her husband of 50+ years and survived a 17 year old daughter (Sue’s sister). My grandmother, who lost two children (more including miscarriages) was perhaps the most devout person I’ve ever known. Like Gladys, not in an “in your face” kinda way; rather it was reflected in their actions more than their words.

I’ve never been religious. I hated going to church as a kid. I never believed in walking on water, or God in the Western, Judeo-Christian manner. Until not too long ago, if I couldn’t literally witness or at least comprehend something – ’cause, yeah, this body/mind is blessed that way – I deemed it crap, especially if it had no practical purpose, and made no bones about it. And then along came Sue……[wish I knew how to insert a heart emoji!]

Obviously, my personal beliefs have morphed. I am convinced in the existence of “God” though beyond that I have no strongly held opinions other than good > bad, and all living things have consciousness – individual PROOF of the existence of God.

Jesus? Buddha? Joan of Arc? Countless others? These are/ were people so deeply devout that they literally sacrificed their lives (this one anyway) in homage to their faith. What could be more worthy of our love and respect than that?

Allan

Parkinson’s – WTF?!

meditation parkinsons

I had lunch with a dear friend whom I haven’t seen in eight years. He’s developed Parkinson’s – I suspect as a consequence of a severe concussion he got when he slipped and fell in his driveway.

When I last saw him, he was wearing an odd-looking pair of glasses to correct his double vision, and he had a mild tremor. I’m sure everyone thought at that point that he was on the mend and the worst of the accident was behind him.

An accident caused, as my personal-injury lawyer friend would say, “without contributory negligence!” – to frankly, one of the smartest, kindest people outside my immediate family that I’ve ever met.

We had lunch weekly for almost ten years. We didn’t agree much in those early years about politics. In my mind, he’s always been a staunch liberal – but not for his own sake! His interest has always been in leveling the playing field for people not able (for whatever reason!) to provide for and protect themselves.

Some would say that my friend is an earthy-crunchy kinda guy. THIS is the guy whom Mother Nature, Karma, or Whatever-you-call-it decides to saddle with Parkinson’s?! Yeah – there really seems to be no justice.

Buddy, you probably won’t, but I encourage you to tag yourself somehow herein so that anyone reading this can follow you online. I’m honored to call you a dear friend – and equally saddened for you Pal. May Whatever-YOU-call-it level your playing field before you pass-on from this realm.

Remember the Samurai who lived a lifetime in the last few minutes of his life – literally, as was he was walking through a garden on his way to the spot where he was about to formally commit Hari-kari. His senses came alive: he smelled the dampness in the air; everything appeared brighter, crisper; he heard his own soft footfalls; and felt the gentle wind against his skin.

Buddy – be the Samurai. I love you.

Here’s a link to a Parkinson’s blog about the benefits of meditating. May you know your own source of solace and comfort always.

Meditation, Yoga, and Exercise in Parkinson’s

Religion and Spirituality are NOT Mutually Exclusive!

Religion and spirituality are NOT mutually exclusive. OMG, nothing could be further from the truth!

Raja Yoga is a personal, spiritual discipline: a code of conduct, exercise and meditation that will turbocharge your existing religious beliefs, and/or drive you into the nearest temple, church or synagogue!

There’s an aspect of YOU that’s IMMUTABLE!  It literally NEVER changes; as far as your body and mind are concerned, it IS eternal! Yet without it, you wouldn’t know you were alive! And btw – you won’t find it mentioned in any anatomy book:

Your consciousness: the awareness OF your thoughts.

You exist in three planes: body, mind & consciousness. Raja Yoga is a practice in better understanding the subtlest aspect of ourselves – and in so doing, coming to a better understanding of the nature of life.

The discipline of Raja Yoga deepens self-awareness and THAT will cause you to seek answers to your own personal questions – and likely lead to a belief in, if not a deepened connection with your understanding of the source of everything.

WHY SHOULD WE CARE ABOUT KARMA?

Karma is unavoidable; it’s the natural law of cause & effect: every action has consequences. A few things to remember about actions:

  • Actions are simply expended energy, which can neither be created nor destroyed.
  • When we act selflessly, or expend energy on behalf of others without expectation of anything in return – we gain because we aren’t expecting to; our expended energy is naturally replenished, if only as an internal sense of fulfillment.
  • When we act selfishly, or expend energy with the expectation of personal reward – we lose because of our expectations; at best we’re energetically treading water since energy spent = energy replaced.

Raja Yoga is an effort to control our minds, and to the limited extent we can, our karma through thought and action, according to time and circumstance:

  • PAST ACTIONS – we can’t control past acts; we can’t somehow “undo” them; all we can do is control how we re-act to their consequences; practicing physical self-control/restraint (postures, breathing) is particularly helpful in this regard.
  • PRESENT ACTIONS – we have some control over how we act in the present moment, though it’s difficult to think correctly and without emotion in the heat of battle; practicing mental self-control (concentration) is particularly helpful in this regard.
  • FUTURE ACTIONS – we have the most control over our future actions, and thus our lives (the sum of our karmic-generating actions), when we take time to contemplate our actions (or inactions). In this regard, introspection or meditation can be tremendously helpful.

Guru Satchidananda used the analogy of an archer’s arrows:

  • Our past actions are like arrows we’ve just let fly: they’ll land and have consequences that we’ll have to contend with [God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…];
  • Our present actions are like arrows we’ve notched, drawn back and about to let fly: we still have some control over their trajectory and target [courage to change the things I can….];
  • Our future actions are like arrows still in our quiver: we decide if, when and how to let them lose […and wisdom to know the difference].

Aim carefully, and act wisely.

Patanjali said, “never give up; always let go”, but most importantly emphasized never forgetting that consciousness (the uber-subtle, never-changing, awareness OF our thoughts) is the only thing not affected by karma (or time and space). It’s the aspect of each of us that our ancestors said was impervious to fire and water! So in a practical sense, our consciousness IS eternal! Draw contentment and courage (oppositional aspects of energetic matter) from that knowledge.

And never forget: you are a miracle!! You are a consequence of L-I-T-E-R-A-L-L-Y everything that’s ever happened since the inception of time and space – as are all the people and things in your life, so please act accordingly, starting by lovingly caring for the body and mind you are gifted with.

Namaste, Skip

Courage

God grant me:

1)   Serenity – to accept the things I can not change,

2)   Courage – to change the things I can, and

3)   Wisdom – to know the difference.

The Serenity Prayer accounts for 50% of the practice of Raja Yoga.

Courage, “tapas” in Sanskrit, is described by Sri Swami Satchidananda in his 1978 “Integral Yoga: The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali” as follows:

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The direct meaning of “tapas” is “to burn”. By the physical tapas of fasting, we burn our excess fat away along with the toxins our bodies have accumulated. By mental tapas, we burn all our old impressions. By verbal tapas, observing silence, we control speech. When we burn, we feel some heat and pain. We undergo suffering. So, tapas [courage] also means to accept suffering. If someone suffers, he or she is blessed, because by that suffering some impurities are purged out.

In order to make our minds clean and steady we must accept suffering, pain and poverty. It is even more beneficial if, at the same time that we accept pain, we bring happiness to others. So, accept the pain of others. [This is why therapists counsel depressed patients to volunteer: helping others feels good.] We never lose by accepting pain. We should never run from it.

In our lives there are hundreds of opportunities for tapas [to be courageous – in attitude AND in action]. Even a cloth must undergo tapas to become clean. What will the laundryman do with my cloth? Will he fold it, put some sandalwood paste and a flower on it and give it back to me? No. First, he’ll soak it in boiling water with soap. Then he’ll beat it every which way. Then he’ll tumble and roll and squeeze it in the washing machine. After that, he’ll dry it in a hot chamber and iron it. Only then does the cloth lose all its dirt and grime. It undergoes tapas to become pure. The laundryman has no hatred for the cloth when he does all those things to it. He only wants to make it pure. It is out of his love that he inflicts pain.

The mind too must be washed, squeezed, tossed, dried and ironed. Don’t think that if someone causes us pain they hate us, but rather that they are helping us to purify ourselves. If we can think like this, we are real Yogis. If anybody hurts our feelings, we should just smile at them….If we understand this point and accept it, we’ll never find fault with anybody who abuses, scolds or insults us. If flowery words make us happy but insults upset us, we know our minds are not yet strong. My teacher said, “Adapt, adjust, accommodate. Bear insult. Bear injury. That is the highest spiritual practice.” To go to a corner and pray is easy…but to be insulted and keep a serene mind requires tapas.

The power to control the body and senses comes from tapas [courage].

Once a man tried to anger a saint. He began insulting him, “You dirty rogue. See how many people you have ruined with your teachings?”

The saint remained quiet, smiling at his tormentor.

“Don’t you understand my language?” the man asked.

“Yes. Sure.”

“You mean, you’ve understood my insults?” The man was incredulous.

“I did.”

“Then how can you keep quiet?”

The saint answered, “Son, suppose you brought me some fruit and I refused it. What would you do?”

“I would have to take it back.”

“Yes,” continued the saint. “In the same way, I don’t enjoy all these things you have brought me. So you can just take them back.”

Handling things this way takes real strength and courage. A person who can only strike back physically may be physically strong but mentally weak. Mental strength comes from tapas.

A link to Satchidananda’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Yoga-Sutras-Patanjali-Swami-Satchidananda/dp/1938477073

Be kind

Lead with your heart; don’t just passively abstain from:

Violence • Dishonesty • Thievery • Infidelity • Greed

Actively practice the opposite:

Compassion • Honesty • Charity • Fidelity • Generosity

Faith Trumps Fu*k You Money [or Mindset Trumps Skillset]

In finance, there’s an expression for the amount of savings you need to comfortably retire from a job you can’t otherwise afford to quit: “fu*k you money”, implying that you could flip off the boss and work whenever, wherever you want – or not! Unfortunately, fu*k you money is like the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow: it vanishes before you can collect it.

Happily, there’s something more powerful, motivational and real than fu*k you money: faith. It doesn’t matter what you have faith in as long as it’s to protect and preserve something or someone else. Ironically, we naturally draw strength from devotion and commitment to others. In the worst times, faith can even trump self-preservation – that’s how powerful it is.

It’s arguable that Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras (the original Raja Yoga text) was composed to promote faith. The first half of the second chapter entitled “Practice” is devoted to one’s attitude, the cornerstone of which is faith. The subsequent half of the chapter is devoted to one’s conduct. Both are intended to foster a clear, calm state of mind in preparation for meditation. In short, your attitude – specifically, your combined level of courage, wisdom and faith (Kriya Yoga) – is more impactful on your state of mind than your conduct (Ashtanga Yoga) or said another way, “mindset trumps skillset”.

Rule #2: Be kind to yourself

Put your own oxygen mask on first. Like everything else, your body and mind will function better and last longer if lovingly maintained; therefore, remain:

Pure – Content – Determined – Studious – Devout

Take care of your body and mind because if you don’t, who will?

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Rule 1: Practice kindness to others

The goal of Raja Yoga is peace. The rules of the game are intended to promote a clear, calm state of mind – and it starts by practicing kindness toward others; specifically, abstaining from:

Violence • Deceit • Theft • Promiscuity • Greed

In short, practice the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you!

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