Is it Kind? Is it True? Is it Necessary?

As readily as my legs folded under me to sit and meditate for 20 minutes this morning, Amma sat down in the same cross-legged position [truthfully, her’s was better than mine!] to hug 1,000 people starting at 7pm last night.

receiving Amma's message

This was my second embrace or “darshan” (from the Sanskrit “dasana” for vision) from Amma.

We were at her event in Marlborough for almost nine hours: chatting, eating, strolling the grounds, people watching – it was a beautiful New England summer day. We eventually ended up in Section F, our next-to-final waiting spot.

I have no idea how many people she hugged last night, but when we left at 11pm, two thirds of the crowd was still waiting to move into the final queue.

On my knees for the last few feet, I leaned in and was guided/shepherded in front of Amma. It’s fascinating to see; like honey bees buzzing around a queen: dutifully, lovingly, without complaint tending to her every imaginable need.

For what seemed like 10-15 seconds she embraced me, leaning into me, repeatedly whispering the same thing. It sounded like “Medulla” (“inner”) or “Madura” (“mature”)? Whatever the message, she chose it for me.

[My qigong teacher has been telling me to “Ground. Ground. Ground!” for months. Coincidence?]

[How do I choose to interpret that? Something like, “I’m a dandelion that needs to root in order to grow from “pretty” to “purposeful”. You have to know me to get the analogy: stubborn, going through an age-related metamorphosis.]

I felt as if I had her full attention in that moment. It was enveloping, tender. I felt energized and puzzled for the rest of the evening. [The dandelion vision didn’t appear until this morning. Unfortunately, and par for the course, it didn’t come with instructions!!]

The darshan experience cost me next to nothing: a little heartburn for overindulging in the REAL Indian food(!), and a couple life lessons:

It’s one thing to talk about devotion; it’s another altogether to demonstrate it.

I’m embarrassed, but I snapped at an enthusiastic bookseller on our way out. My friends and the dear woman were startled but reacted with kindness. So this post is a reminder to myself to speak kindly, truthfully and necessarily. Words can hurt.

May you know faith and love, Skip

BTW – I started to leave without my 2 oz of water that I watched Amma bless (mine was leaking) and my guru insisted that I go back inside and get another one. It may be coincidence, but I just had the best cup of coffee ever!! ❤

Five States of Mind

We’re each capable of experiencing five distinct states of mind.

Think of a Boston parking garage with five levels: 1, L3, L2, L1, B.

(1) Conscious Mind – this is our “normal” state of mind: the above-ground level in the parking garage analogy. This mental state is characterized by words, including the voice in our head; transcending this mental state is associated with the end of attachment.

(L3) Sub-conscious Mind – closest to Conscious Mind; thus, the energetically densest of the three sub-conscious mental states; transcending this mental state is associated with the end of sorrow – superseded by serenity as sensuality dissipates.

(L2) Sub-conscious – the middle of three energetic sub-conscious mental states; transcending this mental state is associated with the end of fear – superseded by faith as memory’s affects subside.

(L1) Sub-conscious – the energetically subtlest [quietest] sub-conscious mental state; closest to Consciousness; transcending this mental state is associated with the end of delusion – superseded by wisdom as ego becomes less energized.

(B) Consciousness – this is where the parking garage analogy breaks down; there is no real world equivalent for something that isn’t affected by time and space. Think of this level as the “X” on a three dimensional map of the parking garage [think treasure map!]! Transcending Mind altogether – union with our Self – is associated with indescribable Bliss: the state of yoga.❤😊🕉

Tap into the power within: meditate.

God bless, Skip

Money <> Love

I pay two people for advice: my guru and qigong teacher. They are the most insightful, intuitive people I know.

One told me that my “relationship with money isn’t grounded.”

That’s not hard to see. I’m generous to a fault – though not as much with money and things these days – and I tend to be high maintenance!

So how do I begin to ground my relationship with money? It helps to understood why, which is where self-reflection, or meditation comes in handy.

First, some background:

My grandfather (“Pops” – that’s him and his better half at our wedding in 1986) was the most influential person in my life. He set an incredibly high bar which I’ve never cleared – but that hasn’t stopped me from trying. He was generous to a fault too – but he could afford to be!!

His dad (above) was a wannabe robber baron. He ended up winning in terms of the wealth he accumulated. When Pops opened the old man’s safe deposit box and found a bunch of jewelry that people had pawned during the first Depression (along with the records), Pops simply gave all the stuff back. Yeah; the bar’s pretty high.

These early childhood memories floated up as I pondered my pecuniary weakness:

  • I stole some coins from my uncle’s collection and bought candy with them (I still feel guilty about it 52 years later!)
  • I stole some change from the kid who lived across the street. He had a job long before I did (I didn’t have to start working ‘til I was 15).
  • I stole a dollar bill off my father’s bureau – but I never got a chance to spend that one!

[Ask me about the time my old man tried to make me to eat a bar of soap!]

I also remembered my parents arguing about money – right before receiving a check from Pops that made them happy.

Message received: stealing money BAD; giving money GOOD.

 

As my qigong teacher says (repeatedly): it’s about balance!

What are the seven words George Carlin told us not to say in public?!?! LOL!!

Deepen your own self-awareness. Find your “why” and the “how” will come – along with renewed faith in yourself!

Meditate. Tap into the power within.

God bless us all, Skip

Your Brain On Alzheimers

Source: Alzheimer’s Society [link below]

This blew me away. Thousands of years ago (pre-recorded history!) Patanjali outlined the science and practice of Raja Yoga (mind control or meditation) distinguishing between the conscious “thinking”, and sub-conscious “acting/memory” aspects of our mind.

Modern science has identified specific areas of our brain responsible for each: the Hippocampus (logic) and Amygdala (memories). Mic drop – almost:

The bookshelf model is as brilliant as it is sad: our more complex, “energetically denser” conscious mind (the aspect we’re generally aware of) is the first to go. The last things to go are the most subtle “physical” aspects of each of us: our oldest memories.

The aspect of each of us that doesn’t leave until our body/mind dies is our awareness.

 

Learn how your mind works before it’s too late! Just kidding – but wouldn’t it be useful to quiet the voice in your head when you want and need to? Say – to get to sleep at night?

Here’s the original [huge props to whomever came up with the analogy]: “The bookshelf model of memory storage”

Need help sleeping at night? Focusing during the day? Stressed? Anxious?

Meditate. Look deep inside yourself. You already have all the answers.

God bless, Skip

MEDITATION TIPS FOR BEGINNERS

Dedicating this one to my newest student! No guns allowed in the studio Buddy! The very first rule of Raja Yoga is love – and it starts with your self.

After picking a spot where you’re going to sit for a few minutes every day to relax, your next homework assignment is to read this and the posts linked below.

PART I – HERE’S WHY

Your frame of mind as you sit to meditate is important. You have NO idea what will come up when you sit quietly with your thoughts, so make it fun!! It’s sort of like fishing: just be prepared and patient.

When trying to change habits, you need three things to sustain them: desire, resources and knowledge. You make the time. I’ll help you keep it fun and teach you how!

Is your stress level – your ability to cope – going to improve on its own? Not likely. Learn to control your thoughts so they don’t control you.

All it takes is practice!

 

Make meditating like brushing your teeth. You might let a lot of things slip, but you likely brush your teeth every day. It’s really that easy: practice, practice, practice. You’ll see the near term benefits soon enough. Practice for 20 years and you’ll be sharing it with others too.

How can you make it fun? Use your imagination! Visualization is a third of the practice of restorative, medical qigong as I’m learning it. This is no different.

As I sat down this morning in my favorite sunny spot and closed my eyes (almost!) I imagined that I was a kid again, hopping on and getting ready to ride a toboggan downhill. I was grinning from ear to ear!!

I grew up in Vermont, so a toboggan works for me. Ride your own toboggan in your mind and smile from your heart like a kid again!

PART II – HERE’S HOW

Once seated:

Lift up and drop down energetically from your heart-center.

Set an intention, either specific or general. Seek an answer. Acknowledge why you’re doing this: effectively praying. Express appreciation for the unique, miraculous manifestation of body, mind and consciousness that is you. Express gratitude for your blessings. Or just close your eyes and push off!

Sit upright, relatively still and quiet. Adjust and shift your weight as necessary; otherwise, be a tree – subject only to swaying in the breeze. Your mind, organs and systems are always in motion so don’t try to stop anything. We’re trying to get our various physical and mental systems to “idle” or run quietly, less stressfully, for whatever period of time we’ve set aside. The goal is to reach an ALMOST hypnotic state of sub-consciousness marked by calm, rhythmic breath, heart, and thought rates.

  • Thoughts – focus your attention on something benign but complex enough to hold your attention. I suggest starting with the alphabet; learn to recite it forward and backwards. It’ll take a little practice but eventually it won’t require as much attention – just beware not to let the recitation become rote. When our sub-conscious mind takes over and we learn to “do” it without “thinking” about it – it frees up our “thinking” mind to wander off to find something else to occupy itself! Right now, we’re practicing reducing the wandering for a little while.

Btw – when your thoughts do drift, gently smile because that’s the nature of our mind; let your breathing settle again, and re-focus. Practice makes perfect. The length of time you can comfortably sit in a sub- or semi-conscious state will lengthen and the state will deepen. 😉

  • Breaths – breathe naturally into your stomach like a child [navel away from your spine on the inhalation; toward your spine on the exhalation]. To begin, simply observe your body breathing [a recent post describes the mechanics of breathing; see if you can translate my post description into your experience].

The object here is to breathe in a settled, rhythmic, subtle, quiet, deep, comfortable, manner – facilitating and fostering a sub- or semi-conscious state of mind. Your breath will settle into a rhythm over time. It may help to play soft melodic music in the background.

  • Heartbeats – ironically, this is the hardest of the three to affect, partially because it can be difficult to sense our pulse without using our fingers. Sometimes it’s easier to sense it in the wrist or neck than in our chest. In order to find and focus attention on – thereby calming – our heartbeat, we quiet our breathing and thinking first.

There’s no right or wrong way to settle and sooth your self. Techniques are as vast and varied as we are. Patanjali’s Raja Yoga is a tested, tried and true method for slipping below the noise when you want and need to!

Ask questions!! I’m here to help.

Other recent posts for novice mind control enthusiasts:

  1. calming breathing exercises 
  2. meditate step 5
  3. sunday reflection 5/20/18 
  4. giving birth to faith
  5. take your mind offline
  6. take 2 asprin and call me in the morning
  7. breadcrumbs
  8. what does consciousness have to do with relaxing
  9. open letter to dan harris
  10. the poor me’s
  11. i see something
  12. find the real you. meditate
  13. spiritual guide for hire
  14. the mechanics of meditating 
  15. forget what you see in the mirror 
  16. battling addiction – insights from a 60 year old addict 

MEDITATE – STEP #5 [CHECK PREVIOUS POST FOR STEPS #1-4: PREPARING FOR THE JOURNEY OF A LIFETIME]

To see yourself from the inside out:

  • SIT STILL & UPRIGHT
  • RELAX
  • CLOSE YOUR EYES ALMOST ALL THE WAY [LET LIGHT IN]
  • BREATHE CALMLY, DEEPLY, RHYTHMICALLY
  • FOCUS
  • FOCUS
  • FOCUS
  • FOCUS

You get the idea: it’s simple, not easy.

At the beginning, focus all of your attention on a physical aspect of your body (e.g., breath, heart beat, physical sensation). If that doesn’t work, silently and slowly recite the alphabet forward and backwards.

Your thoughts WILL drift away from the object of your attention. When you realize it’s happened, smile and gently bring your attention back to the object as if you’re lovingly leading a child home.

Like EVERYTHING, you WILL get better at it the longer you do it. How long have you been working at your profession? I assume you’re better at it today than your first day on the job. Same idea.

Eventually your intuition deepens as you access the more subtle, generally sub-conscious regions of your own mind.

Trust me, you WANT to be motivated by intuition. It saves SO MUCH TIME & TROUBLE!! 

 

 

Just start. Like ANY new healthy habit chose one a) you’ll enjoy and thus want to make time for, and b) one you KNOW you’ll be grateful for twenty years from now – to stoke that motivation. Because I’m lazy, I picked two simple, relatively easy ones a long time ago: walking and meditating.

It’s your body/mind. Take loving care of it because – sadly – no one else ever will. It took a long time for my teacher’s expression “we’re all alone” to sink in. THAT PART SUCKS!!

If you’re religious or spiritual, I encourage you to think of your body/mind as a gift from God.❤

If you’re not (and 16 years ago I wasn’t), I encourage you to recognize the scientific miraculousness of your body/mind – and to meditate!!

When you realize the nature of your own awareness, the world around you takes on an entirely new, miraculous perspective. I wish it for everyone.

Seeing life as miraculous, if not divine, is a happier way of living! That paradigm relieves fear, reducing blood pressure, stress and anxiety!

 

It inspires us to take better care of our self.

My job description: stimulating self-awareness in others.

Wishing you insights galore and lasting peace of mind.

Blessings, Skip ❤😊🕉

Steps #1-4 😉

BEWARE OF IMITATIONS

WHAT IS RAJA YOGA?

I’m a Raja Yogi, a devotee of Patanjali.

Patanjali was the legendary author of the Yoga Sutras, a 200-line poem universally recognized as the authoritative source on the science and practice of Raja Yoga.

Raja Yoga is a personal proof of the scientific hypothesis that consciousness (our awareness) isn’t like anything else in the known universe. This practice has withstood the test of time for good reason:

Mind control (generically, “meditation”) is a gateway “TO THE OTHER SIDE!!”

 

That’s not marketing hype; that’s fact.

I’m not an authority on Raja Yoga but I am speaking from personal experience. I’ve led an incredibly blessed life:

I was a straight A post-graduate student [we won’t talk about my college grades!] I passed the CPA exam on my first try. I worked for a big eight accounting firm in Manhattan for several years before becoming the chief accounting officer for a pubic company. I ran the back office of a multi-billion dollar investment company for thirteen years – and quit that insanely lucrative job on principle.

I became a disciple of Patanjali’s 15 years ago; I became a devotee and started teaching others two years ago.

Mind control literally changes your paradigm – your perspective on EVERYTHING!

You want to see yourself as I see you – I promise.

 

Here are a couple keys to success (all the details are in this blog), constantly:

  • practice distinguishing between your thinking and doing mind;
  • practice distinguishing between your thoughts and your awareness OF them;
  • practice driving your thinking mind – not just while you’re sitting on a meditation cushion;
  • contemplate the nature of your awareness.

Happy trails.

God bless. Skip

10 minute video introducing Raja Yoga

I’m Not Enlightened

I haven’t worked hard enough or long enough, but as the cliché goes, it’s all about the journey because the goal isn’t guaranteed.

What I DO have is a healthy respect for – and faith in – an aspect of each of us that we naturally take for granted: our consciousness.

Without consciousness we wouldn’t know we’re alive!

 

Yeah! What would be the point of living if you weren’t aware of what your body and mind we’re experiencing in realtime??!

While WHAT we’re conscious of changes constantly due to the bipolar energetic nature of our world, our awareness OF those constant changes never does. Consciousness alone is unaffected by time and space.

It never changes. Without it we don’t realize we’re alive. Yeah, it’s essentially divine.

 

Modern religion refers to our consciousness as our spirit or soul. Somehow it’s true nature got lost in translation, but the message is the same: “You’ve got serious potential! Live up to it! The power is INSIDE YOU!!”

How does that light of self-awareness go on in someone? I suspect it’s unique in each case, but there are commonalities, markers along the route if you will.

The type of epiphany I had two years ago was traditionally likened to seeing something’s shadow.

ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT’S CASTING THE SHADOW – ONLY THAT SOMETHING IS!

 

I suspect when someone truly devout witnesses whatever’s casting the shadow it evokes a permanent change in them on an order of magnitude I can’t image.

My personal favorite shadow-caster image comes from my all-time favorite movie: Mulan.

Of course, it’s Mushu the little red dragon! Mulan’s clever, devoted caretaker.

Let me help you find your own inner Mushu. It’s typically a long, arduous journey – though with magnificent and inspiring views along the way.

What’s the real benefit of finding faith through self-mastery?

“Yea though I walk through the valley of death Baby!”

Meditate; it’s what’s good for you!

God bless, Skip

GIVING BIRTH TO FAITH

Hi Kaya,

This is for your student who asked about fostering Faith.

According to Chinese self-mastery disciplines like Tai Chi and Qi Gong, winter is the best time of year to foster Faith [not coincidently, the time of year we tend to “go inside”].

I found Faith by practicing Patanjali’s Raja Yoga, the science of mind control or meditation.

Raja Yoga is experiential. When we put it to use in our life, we’re practicing. Until then it’s just information.

According to Patanjali, success (realizing the secret to life, or finding Faith and purpose) requires two things: consistency (i.e., never giving up) and non-attachment (i.e., always letting go).

HERE’S THE SHORT VERSION

Humans are multi-dimensional beings. Not sure? Do you think? Can you see your thoughts? Would your thoughts exist without you? Right. Our invisible thoughts are an integral part of who we are.

We have at least three invisible dimensions:

Our Conscious Mind functions; it’s always on; the conscious or “thinking” aspect of our mind functions like our heart and lungs: singly and sequentially – until our body no longer holds an electrical charge. 💔 Like  our lungs, our Conscious Mind naturally functions involuntarily, but we can override those systems and breathe and think voluntarily!! This aspect of our invisible Mind is evidenced by words in our head.

Our Sub-Conscious Mind also functions perpetually but at a lower energetic frequency; we just don’t hear it! The multi-tasking, “doing” aspect of our mind runs the ship silently and seemingly on autopilot. It’s also where our memories are stored [not unlike the furnace and storage areas in our home: they’re generally “downstairs”]. Our Sub-Conscious Mind is evidenced by sensations, insights and intuition.

All you need to know about our Sub-Conscious Mind [aka our “reptilian brain”] is that anything an alligator can do, this Sub-Conscious aspect of our Mind is capable of: walking, chewing, stalking prey, mating; further, this aspect of our mind works flawlessly (at Olympian athletic levels!) as long as our Conscious Mind is thinking clearly and correctly!

Our Consciousness doesn’t function. It just “is”. Our Consciousness CAN NOT BE AFFECTED BY ANYTHING. Raja Yoga is a personal discipline that inevitably makes that Self-evident. 😉

Consciousness is evidenced by the awareness OF whichever of the two aspects of our Mind is most energized.

You can imagine the practical benefits of never having to listen to the nagging voice in your head again – but here’s the catch:

this Truth must be experienced between our own two ears to be of any use!

 

HERE’S HOW

The first step in learning mind-control is discerning between when and which aspect of your Mind is engaged.

  • Do you hear words? You’re in your conscious “thinking” mind.
  • If instead, you’re only aware of sensations, images, memories, insights and intuition – you’re in your generally Sub-Conscious Mind: your operating system and storage area.

The second step is to figure out how to “drive” your Conscious Mind. It’s simple, it just requires constant practice. The critical thing to realize is that while we CAN simultaneously multi-task, we CAN NOT simultaneously multi-think [try simultaneously counting and reciting the alphabet].

After that, it’s like driving a sports car with three forward gears, reverse and neutral, that runs on five types of fuel, has a steering mechanism, and volume and speed controls. Search my blog posts for “driving your mind”.

The third step is to figure out where your Conscious Mind’s “neutral” is – so you can comfortably let your Mind idle. You can’t turn it off but you CAN allow it to slow down!

BUT WHEN DOES FAITH BLOOM??

It’s the “what happens next” part that’s harder to describe – but there are both short and long term physical, mental and emotional benefits: initially, mind control or meditation is stress relieving (imagine being able to control the voice in your head). Longer term, it deepens our intuition.

When does faith emerge? It depends on you and your teacher. My teachers say our purpose is to grow up – not just old, and the sooner we begin the sooner we’ll bloom into our inborn potential. 😉

It took me 13 years, but if you start with a map and an experienced guide it’ll make your journey infinitely easier!!! [btw – if you know me, you KNOW I’m NOT fully Self Realized – YET!!!]

The awareness OF thought (Consciousness) is eternal, immutable, and more subtle than the very fabric of the known universe – completely unaffected by the vagaries of time & space – yet a CRITICAL aspect of our life experience – because without awareness we wouldn’t taste, smell, hear, see, or feel!!!!!

It will freak you out when you realize a) the distinction between thought and the awareness OF thought, b) the eternal nature of Consciousness, and c) that IT’S INSIDE YOU!!!

You DO have a ‘spirit’ or ‘soul’!!  Those are modern religious synonyms for Consciousness!!!!!!!

That realization gives a whole new meaning to Faith.

Unfortunately, while the knowledge can be freely given (I’M TRYING!!) it must be personally experienced to be helpful to anyone. We each have to do the work. Until you use it, this is just information – like a treasure map – by itself, relatively valueless!!!

Self-discovery is like acquiring a shield in one of those electronic war games our son plays, though very real – just difficult to describe. It prompted someone to memorably declare “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil for thou art with me…!!”

Raja Yoga is simple but not easy. It takes discipline, tenacity and dedication (pigheadedness and being Irish help)!

As Patanjali said, when it “clicks” you know it. It’s indescribably liberating.

Love, Skip

#BringBackPatanjali!!!!!